As I began to love myself
I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is
"AUTHENTICITY".
As I began to love myself
I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person,
even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it,
and even though this person was me.
Today I call it
"RESPECT".
As I began to love myself
I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it
"MATURITY".
As I began to love myself
I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time,
and everything happens at the exactly right moment,
so I could be calm.
Today I call it
"SELF-CONFIDENCE"
As I began to love myself
I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness,
things I love to do and that make my heart cheer
and I do them in my own way
and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it
"HONESTY".
As I began to love myself
I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health –
food, people, things, situations,
and everything that drew me down and away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is
"LOVE OF ONESELF".
As I began to love myself
I quit trying to always be right,
and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is
"MODESTY".
As I began to love myself
I refused to go on living in the past
and worry about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment,
where EVERYTHING is happening
Today I live each day, day by day,
and I call it
"PERFECTION"
As I began to love myself
I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick.
But as I connected it to my heart
my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection
WISDOM OF THE HEART.
We no longer need to fear arguments,
confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.
Even stars collide,
and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know
That is LIFE!
夏楠妈~ 想到《论语》，颜回早死，因他“不二过"，"闻一而知十" ，对自己也许要求太多太苛求自己了。
《论语·公冶长篇》里，子曰：“吾未见刚者。”或对曰：“申枨。”子曰：“枨也欲，焉得刚？” 孔子说：“我没有看见刚强的人。”有人回答说：“申枨（应该是一个刚强的人）。”孔子说：“申枨个人欲望多，怎么能刚强？所以无欲则刚，欲求贪念会让人丧失原则。
子贡曰：我不欲人之加诸我也，吾亦欲无加诸人。子曰：赐也，非尔所及也。
子贡对孔子说起自己的志向道：天下的人，都有一样的心情喜好，凡是不好的事情，我不愿意遇到，料想其他人也同样不愿意遇到。如果把我不愿意的事情强加在别人身上，就说明我心中只有自己，而没有别人。在我心里，天下大众和我是一样的，凡是我不愿意遇到的事情，我也同样不会强加在别人身上。夫子听了子贡的话，固然肯定他的志向高远，但是也深知子贡还没有达到这么高的水平，怕他言过其实，行不符言，所以警告他说：人最难克服的就是私欲，最难精纯的就是仁德。象你所说的那样，己所不欲，勿施于人，是将天下看作一人，完全没有躯体的限制，将万物视为一体，追求一切事物的共同利益，不是心地道德纯熟圆满，没有丝毫私欲的人，是不能做到的。你的学问道德有这么高的水平吗？孔子这样说，不是夸大困难阻碍别人前进，是要让子贡知难而后勇，更加努力修行。孔子真是个大智慧的人。
子曰，孰为微生高直，或乞醯焉，乞诸其邻而与焉。看来孔子是不赞同象微生高这样的老好人，醯(醋)，自家没有醋，借邻居的醋给别人。没有就没有。夏楠妈有时朋友来借钱，自己即便没有也会再借别人的再借给他，这不是直，不是真实的自己，然而生活中真正做到真实也不容易。
有矛盾没关系，不同的人碰撞在一起，会有不同的火花，思想碰撞才有融合和进步，就如晨读。我们要勇敢面对矛盾，纠纷，和问题。
儿子参加国学班后每次课都必须写一篇文章，在孩子成长中成长了自己。
程程妈~夏楠妈很厉害，古文粘手而来!今天没有想到其他，读书时卓别林滑稽可笑的形象一直在头脑里闪现，肥大的裤子，黑色领结，或一本正经或惊诧夸张。他70岁时写这首诗，这是一个怎样的人啊！看他的无声黑白电影《摩登时代》等，总是哈哈大笑，而后觉得发人深省，不禁觉得苦涩，感叹，深思，落泪。东西方文化思想真是想通的啊！东方智慧的仁义礼智信就是真正的成熟吧，真实，自爱，尊重，自信，纯真，成熟，生命。仁，善就是自爱，爱人，敬就是自尊，尊重他人，忠信就是有责任感尽义务，不失赤子之心就是真实，不忘初心，就是坚持，就是刚，就是遇到挫折可以正视现实吧！
修身齐家治国平天下就是爱自己提高自己而后影响到身边的人吧，也是更好的爱别人和国家！
可可妈~从自己而来，真实不违背本心，爱好自己也是爱别人。不要强加于人，育儿上要让孩子做好他自己，不要太多干涉。接受现状，认识自己的位置。可可妈有时也不太自信，有时自卑。生命树张老师说，一切都是最好的安排，要知道生命中的挫折不快，不是冲我们而来，是为我们而来的，我们要做好迎接就好。诗意，乐观的生活，放松，喜悦，学会做个单纯的人。远离不健康的东西，靠拢正念。健康的自私自利，就是精神上的健康。接受自己的错误，面对，接纳，改变，不要自责内疚太多，学会放过自己。活在当下，过去是历史，明天是未知。调整好心态，接纳不同的声音。喜欢这首诗。
