There are two things that really matter during the winter break.  First, you don't usually have time to interact with your child. Now you have time to do the right thing and get the relationship right.      Don't be in jeopardy. Don't come up. Just say, "Oh, our boy is not obedient. You've got the right method. He'll certainly do." The key is that you don't come up, think it's hard, come up and think it'll definitely not work, and find reasons ahead of time.  If you can't talk, learn a little speech. If you cannot get along, learn ways to get along. These things are very simple. You said it wasn't useful for you to study before because the person you studied before wasn' t good, right?  It's not a textbook. Why don't you learn it now with new textbooks? Maybe it might be useful. Don't avoid the problem. You don't adjust your relationship with him for decades during the winter break.  Then school starts, you talk, he's not you, you go flush the reservoir. Don't say that you children are different from everybody else. You are all two shoulders and one head. What is different?    You are all rebellious and disobedient children. What is difference? How can one parent learn, one parent adjusts, and one parent is all right? The reason is that there is only escape and only complaint. Does one dare to try?  So again, brave people enjoy time first.  Secondly, regarding learning, I repeat once again, don't randomly put your child in a remedial class. Many of the classes he will pay you big cookies in order to scam you for money.  He will tell you how much precision we need to learn later this time. He will just push back. As for whether your child can digest it, he doesn't care.  In fact, anyone who has actually read a book understands that looking up past problems and reviewing more is always more important than moving forward.  As with warfare, it doesn't matter how much space you fight. It does matter how much you digest. The energy you digest continues to provide you with new combat power.  This is called fighting with war, blindly gaining control and pushing forward with all might, and in the end it is a dead end.  Of course, I told parents about this. Most parents don't listen to being given a few words in a supplementary class, and they are being coaxed and making payments. Really, they just move themselves, OK?  And more importantly, the child's experiences are not inexhaustible and he does not use them. You're so wasteful, and by the time school starts, he's sick of blood, and it's up to you what to do.

      寒假真正重要的是两件事情。

        第一个，你平时没时间跟孩子接触，现在有时间了，做点正确的事情，把关系搞好一点。          不要有危难情绪，不要上来，就说哎呀，我们这孩子不听话，你方法用对了，他肯定听话。

    关键是你不要上来，觉得难，上来就觉得肯定搞不成，然后提前找理由。不会说话，你就学点话术嘛，不会相处，你就学点相处的方式。这些东西都是很简单的。          你说你以前学了没用，是因为以前你学的那个人不行，对吧？

    是教材不行，你现在换新的教材来学学呢？没准就有用了呢，不要逃避问题，寒假几十天的时间，你不跟他好好调整关系。                  那开了学，你说话，他在不你，你去冲水库去。                      不要说你们这孩子跟别人不一样，都是两个肩膀，一个脑袋，有什么不一样的，都是叛逆气不听话的孩子，有什么不一样的？怎么人家家长一学，人家家长调整了，人家就好了，道理这就只有逃避，只有抱怨，人家试都不敢试吗？                所以,还是那句话，勇敢的人先享受时间。              第二个，关于学习的，我再重复一遍，不要随便把孩子往补习班封。        补习班很多他为了骗你的钱，都会给你花大饼，告诉你，我们这次要往后面学多少多少精度，他只管往后赶。至于你的孩子能不能消化，他不管的。 

    其实，真正读过书的人都懂，查漏补缺找以前的问题，多复习，永远比往前面应展进度要重要的多。                跟打仗一样，你打下多大的地方不重要，你能消化多少地方才重要，消化下来的地方能源源不断的给你提供新的战斗力。这个就叫以战养战，盲目获张，拼命往前推，那最后就是死路一条嘛。 

    当然，这些跟家长说了，多半家长也不听被补课接过几句话，又忽悠又咣咣交钱，真的只是感动自己好吗？                                          而且更重要的是，孩子的经历，他不是取世不尽，用之不竭的。你这么瞎浪费，到时候开了学，他又厌学，看你怎么办。