Born a Crime
书名:Born a Crime
豆瓣评分:9.3
作者: Trevor Noah
副标题: Stories from a South African Childhood
简介:想写关于自己生活在南非童年的回忆故事,却写成一封给母亲的情书
Trevor Noah
是一位来自南非的喜剧演员、脱口秀表演者、电视和电台节目主持人。他接替乔恩·斯图尔特(囧司徒)成为美国的新闻讽刺电视节目每日秀 的现任主持人。
内容:
I grew up in a world of violence, but I myself was never violent at all.
I. A world of violence:
One minute it'll be a placid afternoon, people hanging out, doing their thing, and next thing you know there's a cop car chasing gangsters, flying through the streets, a gun battle going off, helicopters circling overhead. Then, ten minutes later, it's like it never happened—everyone's back to hanging out, back to the hustle, coming and going, running around.
Trevor Noah 生于种族隔离制度下的南非,因混种婚姻禁止法:禁止人种不同的男女结婚,母亲和白人的父亲结合非法,自己的出生即是种罪名,Born a crime。 以人种划分居住区域, Trevor生活成长的街区,盗版CD名牌,真实的罪犯枪手,没有非法合法之分。Trevor母亲因受家庭暴力而多次伸手向警方寻求帮助,然而当地政府什么也没有做过。诉讼档案总是会失踪,而法院从未审理过这些案件···那样一个动荡暴力下的南非,而Trevor却活出精彩的人生,最多的付出莫过于他的队友——母亲。如Trevor所言:Love is a creative act. When you love someone you create a new world for them.母亲在动乱的南非下给予Trevor正常孩子应有的童年、教育和一个充满爱的世界。
She was my mom. She was my teammate. It had always been me and her together, me and her against the world.
II. Trevor 's mother
Trevor母亲,不知如何夸赞,独立自主、生活达观、睿智坚韧可又也是家暴下的弱小受害者。能不畏的面对生活中经历一切,永远报以微笑,或许,因为她是天主教至诚信徒而懂得 "God helps them that help themselves." 如其所言:" 'Patricia, I don't do anything by mistake. There is nothing I give you that you cannot handle.' "
几点母亲的哲学:
①."You cannot blame anyone else for what you do. You cannot blame your past for who you are. You are responsible for you. You make your own choices."
告诉我们责任,对自己、为自己所做出的选择负责,而不归咎他人。
②."My child, you must look on the bright side." ..."Of course there is. Now you're officially the best-looking person in the family." She broke out in a huge smile and started laughing.
枪杀中幸免于难,如此安慰Trevor,深被感动。告诉我们达观,无论经历什么,已经经历的、正在处理的或即将面对的,事有千面物有百态,择其阳光积极一面,微笑对待。
③. ...another trait I inherited from my mother: her ability to forget the pain in life.
告诉我们释怀,人生不如意事十之八九,求学、工作、生活、婚姻,有快乐的地方也有不幸;碰壁、失业、失败,暂时的停留休整忘却生活中苦痛,疼痛退去、伤疤愈合继续前进,而不要裹足不前,不敢再次大胆尝试。
④. No one chose her. She did it on her own. She found her way through sheer force of will.
Trevor母亲,家中排行第二不受重视,在种族隔离、男女不等的南非社会传统文化下,她有自己想法见解,通过自己的学习,一技之长过好自己的生活。告诉我们自主,学会独立实现自己想要得到种种,掌握能使自己独立的一技之长,拥有一个自主思考的大脑。
III. Mother and Son & Tom and Jerry
书中表达,幽默风趣,形象生动的描述生活场景,母亲和儿子的相爱相杀故事。Trevor说自己与母亲的关系如猫和老鼠那般,逃体罚。分享最捧腹的一段 Chapter I Runner 中画面:
① 母亲的追缉智慧“抓小偷”:she'd yell “Thief!”knowing it would bring the whole neighborhood out against me, and then I'd have strangers trying to grab me and tackle me, and I'd have to duck and dive and dodge them as well, all the while screaming, “I'm not a thief! I' her son!”
② 为逃离出租车司机的谋杀,母亲将毫不知情Trevor扔出车外,之后的对峙:
“You never told me that! You just threw me out of the car!”
“I did tell you. Why didn't you jump?”
“Jump?! I was asleep!”
“So I should have left you there for them to kill you?”
“At least they would have woken me up before they killed me.”
I was too confused and too angry about getting thrown out of the car to realize what had happened. 被扔出后还不知真相的呆萌可怜的Trevor。
③ But you, God gave you that ass for whipping.
文末,对于Trevor犯错体罚而弟弟犯错不体罚,母亲如上解释。这理由让人无力反驳呀,这位可爱的妈妈~
十月收获
认识了一位可爱可敬的母亲,一位幽默的脱口秀主持人,读到一封真实感人的“情书”。
对于人的感恩称赞,言语可以细致入微,真实而不煽情。想到之前小伙伴推荐的##,同样真实。
Eric分享:阅读对写作的直到正体现于此。那些具有直指人心天赋的敏锐作者们能够让我们意识到自己无往而不在的枷锁处境帮助我们清除阻碍情感流动的堤坝。当你阅读了足够多的优秀文字,你将发现心灵鸡汤文字另人发笑,因为它罔顾真实,一位煽情;你也会觉的....令人反胃,它正如居民从冷库中领到的十年前的猪肉,盖着醒目的“合格”蓝戳,却早就走了味,失了营养。
不让读者遮翳于理,情感直达人心。是写作所秉持的观念,也适用于选书读书,莫食了早了味,失了营养的“食物”,免于胃肠不适,反酸反胃。
碎碎念:
阅读源于个人理解,每个人经历不同,视角不同,理解不同,纯粹分享,仅供参考。推荐阅读。