5 ways to kill your dreams

演讲者：Bel Pesce

语言：英语

简介：2014 | 我们都想要发明那个改变世界的产品，打造那个成功的公司，写那本畅销书，然而只有少数人能真正做到。巴西企业家 Bel Pesce 给我们详细介绍了五个很多人相信的谎言，相信这些谎言能保证你的梦想永不实现。

💬 中英对照翻译

I dedicated the past two years tounder standing how people achieve their dreams. When we think about the dreams we have, and the dent we want to leave in the universe, it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is between the dreams that we have and projects that never happen. (Laughter) So I'm here to talk to you today about five way show not to follow your dreams.

我花了两年的时间去理解人们如何实现他们的梦想。说到我们的梦想、我们想要在这个宇宙留下的痕迹，让人吃惊的是 我们的梦想常常只是梦。（笑声）今天我在这里要讲的就是 5个如何毁灭梦想的办法。

One: Believe in overnight success. You know the story, right? The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money. You know, the story may seem real, but I bet it's incomplete. If you go investigate further, the guy has done 30 apps before and he has done a master's on the topic, a Ph.D. He has been working on the topic for 20 years.

第一、相信一夜成名。你肯定听过这样的故事：一个技术男开发了一个移动应用并迅速转卖赚了很多钱。这个故事可能是真的，但是很可能是不完整的。如果你深入研究就发现，这个人在之前已经开发了30个应用，他有相关的硕士和博士学历，他研究这个领域已经20年了。

This is really interesting, I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is an overnight success. I come from a humble family, and two weeks before the deadline to apply to MIT, I started the application process. And, voila! I got in. People may think it's an overnight success, but that only worked because for the 17 years prior to that, I took life and education seriously. Your overnight success story is always a result of everything you've done in your life through that moment.

这很有意思。我自己本身在巴西也是一个“一夜成名”的故事。我来自一个普通家庭，麻省理工大学（MIT）申请截止日期两个星期前，我开始申请。哇啦，我被录取了！人们可能认为这是“一夜成名”，但是这背后是我17年来对生活和教育的执着努力。“一夜成名”总是你之前所有努力加起来的结果。

Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you. Constantly, people want to help out, right? All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners, they all have opinions on which path you should take: "And let me tell you, go through this pipe." But whenever you go inside, there are other ways you have to pick as well. And you need to make those decisions yourself. No one else has the perfect answers for your life. And you need to keep picking those decisions, right? The pipes are infinite and you're going to bump your head, and it's a part of the process.

第二、相信别人有你需要的答案。人们总是很乐意帮助，对吗？各种各样的人，你的家人、朋友、商业伙伴，他们都觉得你应该这样或那样做。“听我说，走这个管道。”但是你进到里边，你还需做出其他的选择，而你需要自己做出这些选择。没有人能给你的人生提供完美的答案，你自己需要做出决定，对吗？管道无穷无尽，你可能会磕到头，这是这个过程的的一部分。

Three, and it's very subtle but very important: Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed. So when your life is going great, you have put together a great team, and you have growing revenue, and everything is set -- time to settle. When I launched my first book, I worked really, really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil.

第三点不太明显但是很重要，在一时的成功面前止步。你的生活很不错，你组建的团队很棒。你们的收入持续增长，一切都很好——可以休息了。在我出版了我的第一本书之后，我非常努力在巴西到处宣传。

With that, over three million people downloaded it, over 50,000 people bought physical copies. When I wrote as equel, some impact was guaranteed. Even if I did little, sales would be okay. But okay is never okay. When you're growing towards a peak, you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak. 

伴随我的努力，超过300万人下载了这本书，超过5万 人买了印刷版。当我写续集的时候，影响力已经得到保障。即使我只付出一点点，销售量也应该还可以。但是还可以是永远不够的。当你朝着一个顶峰前进的时候，你需要更加努力来找到另一个顶峰。

Maybe if I did little, a couple hundred thousand people would read it, and that's great already. But if I work harder than ever, I can bring this number up to millions. That's why I decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil. And I can already see a higher peak. There's no time to settle down.

也许如果我只付出一点点，几十万人会读续集，这固然很棒，但是如果我付出前所未有的努力，我可以把这个数字推到几百万。这就是为什么我决定把我的新书介绍到巴西的每一个州，我已经能够看到一个更高的顶峰。没有时间止步。

Fourth tip, and that's really important: Believe the fault is someone else's. I constantly see people saying, "Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest." "Oh, I created this great product, but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well." Or, "I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations."

第四点，也是非常重要的一点：相信错误永远是别人的。我经常听到人们说：“是的，我有过一个非常好的想法，但是没有有远见的投资者愿意投资。”“哦，我做了这个很棒的产品，但是市场太糟糕了，销售情况不是很好。”或者，“我找不到人才，我的团队实在太差了。”

If you have dreams, it's your responsibility to make them happen. Yes, it may be hard to find talent. Yes, the market may be bad. But if no one invested in your idea, if no one bought your product, for sure, there is something there that is your fault. (Laughter)

如果你有梦想，让梦想实现是你的责任。是的，人才也许很难找，是的，市场也许很糟糕，但是如果没有人愿意对你的想法进行投资，如果没有人买你的产品，这其中肯定是因为你做错了什么。

Definitely. You need to get your dreams and make them happen. And no one achieved their goals alone. But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's. Be responsible for your dreams.

肯定！你需要努力把你的梦想变成现实。没有人可以一个人单独实现梦想，但是如果你不努力实现 它，那是你自己的错而非他人。你需要对你的梦想负责。

And one last tip, and this one is really important as well: Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves. Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends, they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain, and it was a lot of work. You could see that they were sweating and this was tough. And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak. Of course, they decided to celebrate, right? I'm going to celebrate, so, "Yes! We made it, we're at the top!" Two seconds later, one looks at the other and says, "Okay, let's go down."

最后一点也是非常重要的一点：相信只有梦想本身是最重要的。我曾经看到过一个广告，很多朋友在一起，我们在爬山，这是一座很高的山，他们爬得很辛苦，你能看到他们汗流浃背很累，他们往上爬最终爬到了顶峰。当然，他们决定庆祝，对吗？开始庆祝，有人说“耶！我们到啦，我们到达顶峰啦！”两秒钟以后，其中两人互相看了看说：“那么，我们下山吧。”

Life is never about the goals themselves. Life is about the journey. Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves, but people think that you have dreams, and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams, it's a magical place where happiness will be all around. But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation, and your life is not. The only way to really achieve all of your dreams is to fully enjoy every step of your journey. That's the best way.

人生不是关于目标本身，而是关于旅程。当然，你应该享受目标本身，但是人们往往觉得如果你有梦想，而你实现梦想的时候，那是一个神奇的地方，那里被幸福环绕。但是梦想实现的那一刻只是短暂的瞬间，而你的人生不是一瞬。真正实现所有梦想的唯一办法就是尽情享受旅程的每一步。这是最好的办法。

And your journey is simple -- it's made of steps. Some steps will be right on. Sometimes you will trip. If it's right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate. And if you tripped, turn that into something to learn. If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate, you will for sure enjoy the journey.

你的旅程很简单——它是由一步一步组成的。有的你会走得很顺利，有的时候你也会被绊倒。如果很顺利，那么庆祝吧，因为有的人等很久才能庆祝，如果被绊倒了，把它变成学习的机会。如果每一步都是用来学习或者庆祝，你肯定会享受这个旅程。

So, five tips: Believe in overnight success, believe someone else has the answers for you, believe that when grow this guaranteed, you should settle down, believe the fault is someone else's, and believe that only the goals themselves matter. Believe me, if you do that, you will destroy your dreams.

总结一下，5个办法：相信一夜成名，相信别人有你需要的答案，相信在一时的成功面前应该止步，相信错误永远是别人的，相信只有目标本身是重要的。相信我，如果你做了以上这些，你肯定能成功毁灭你的梦想。