国庆期间和父母一起回了一趟宝宝家，两家人商量了一下结婚的事情。刚好最近看了少有人走的路，看到了纪伯伦的两首诗，于心有戚戚焉，找到中英的版本放在这里于大家分享。一首是写给父母看的，一首是给夫妻双方看的。
家庭成员之间的关系，有时候就像是一把吉他上的不同琴弦，在一起才能够演奏出美妙的音乐，但又不能贴靠太近，不然会影响各自的震动。每根弦都要调好音，负责好自己的音域，如果哪根弦走调太多或者断了，都无法再奏出和谐的乐曲。
ON CHILDREN
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
关于儿女
你的儿女，其实不是你的儿女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
他们借助你来这世界，却非因你而来，
他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的想法
因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦也无法到达的明天。
你可以拼尽全力，变得像他们一样，
却不要让他们变得和你一样。
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭，
弓箭手望着未来之的箭靶，
他用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。
ON MARRIAGE
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music .
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
关于婚姻
你们一同出生，而且永远相伴。
当死亡白色的羽翼掠过你们的生命时，你们也应在一起。
是的，即使在神静默的记忆中，你们也将始终相守。
请在你们彼此的世界中保留一些空间，
好让空中的风在你们之间舞蹈。
彼此相爱，但不要让爱成为束缚。
让爱成为奔流于你们灵魂海岸线间的大海。
注满彼此的杯盏，但不要只从一只杯中啜饮。
要将自己的面包赠与对方，但不是享用同一块。
两人一起欢歌曼舞，同享欢愉，但仍要各自保持自我，
就像琴上的弦虽为同一旋律而振动，但琴与弦也是彼此分开的。
奉献你们的心，但并不是要你们紧握住对方的心不放。
因为只有生命的手才能握紧你们的心。
应站在一起，但不要靠得太近，
因为廊柱分立，才能撑起庙宇。
而橡树和松柏也不能在彼此的树荫里生长。
