一.问答
A.导读问题
1.What are the subtleties of not giving a fuck?
There are 3 subtleties.
Firstly,not giving a fuck doesn't mean being indifferent.
Secondly,you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
Thirdly,you are always choosing what to care about subconsciously.
2.What's wrong with being "perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times'?Can you think of an an example to support your answer?
Q1: ① You want to be comfortable and happy at all times because you lack them.
② Imperfection is perfect. No one can be comfortable and happy at all times.
③ The excessive pursuit of perfection leads you nowhere.
Q2: That you don't have a good-looking pushes you to spend a lot of time and money in dressing yourself.That you are not able to change completely at all renders you anxious.You reject your imperfection and even see it as an injustice. Finally, you end up with arriving nowhere.
B.Chapter 1 问题
1.What does Bukowski's success try to prove?
① Bukowski's success lies in his self-awareness of his failure. "Dedicated to nobody" reveals what life is.
② Taking American culture into consideration, there is no denying that Americans stress perfectism,which can be seen in sports,media,education,etc. When high expectations of being perfect become a trend,Bukowski's anti-traditional behaviour enables him to set himself apart.
2.What's wrong with the conventional life advice,which is fixating on what you lack?
This fixation constantly reminds you of what you lack,of what you should have been but failed to be.According to The Backwards Law, pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place.What's more, when you feel bad at your lacking something,you feel bad at this feeling.Ultimately, you end up doing nothing. Just be free from matters of consequences.Just don't give a fuck about everything. Do not try.
3.Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?
The Feedback Loop from Hell,which can be regarded a circle,means you get anxious about your getting anxious,as a result, negative feelings constantly appear.
二.摘抄
And his success stemmed not from some determination to be a winner,but from the fact that he knew he was a loser,accepted it ,and then wrote honestly about it.
stem v.
1. 句中用法：stem from sth (develop as a result of sth)
e.g. His headaches stemmed from vision problems.
2. （ to stop sth from happening ,spreading or developing)
stem the tide/flow/flood of sth
stem the growth/rise/decline
You get pissed off at the stupidest,most inane stuff,and you have no idea why.
pissed off
① （annoy )
e.g. It pisses me off when they start moaning about going to war.
② (go away, in a rude way)
e.g. He told me to piss off,or he'd clobber me.（揍我）
Stress-related health issues,anxiety disorders,and cases of depression have skyrocketed.
skyrocket v.激增 （surge/shot up/)
e.g. The trade deficit has skyrocketed.
My mother was recently screwed out of a large chunk of money by a close friend of hers.
a chunk of (chunks of) 大量的 e.g chunks of information.
我们可以联想到有关大量的单词短语
plenty of/ a mass of /massive/ abundant/plentiful/ a good deal of / a large amount of /substantial/a number of /tons of/enormous/a host of/a deluge of
或者变换句式
e.g They flooded him with advice.
We were drowning in data but starved of information.
三.感想
读这本书，之所以感同身受，是因为我恰好经历了从be anxious about getting anxious到not give a fuck about everything的转变。
至于之前经历了怎样的焦虑、怀疑、自我不信任、担惊受怕，我已经不记得了，更不会give a fuck about it。
现在的我读书，旅行，交友，学语言，完完全全达到一种“从心所欲不逾矩”的状态。结果，明明不在意分数却得了很高的分数，明明不在意别人的看法却有越来越多的人开始注意我，明明不再给自己设立这个月要读多少多少本书的目标却无意间读了很多很多。想着这一路走来，我可能是最幸福的人吧：爸爸妈妈健康又快乐。我在自己喜欢的城市，学喜欢的专业，做喜欢的事情，见喜欢的风景。我遇见的所有人都是这个世界上最好的人。虽然自己在很多方面都不足，缺点也那么多，但也没有那么糟。步履缓慢，但也从未停止追梦。
想到张晓风曾说：树在，山在，大地在，岁月在，我还要怎样更好的世界。
