书籍《everything is fucked》
想要教会一个青少年学会无条件的爱就必须以身作则，示范给他们看，想要无条件的爱，就要无条件的爱他，无条件的相信他，而不是用暴力去让他屈服。
The best way to do this is by example, of course, by showing unconditionality by being unconditional yourself. The best way to teach an adolescent to trust is to trust him. The best way to teach an adolescent respect is to respect him. The best way to teach someone to love is by loving him. And you don’t force the love or trust or respect on him—after all, that would make those things conditional—you simply give them, understanding that at some point, the adolescent’s bargaining will fail and he’ll understand the value of unconditionality when he’s ready.
人类的强大之处和与众不同之处在于对于意义的构建，因为人们可以理智的思考未来与当下的结果和情况，那么他们就可以根据这样的思考结果做出符合实际情况的改变和行动来更正自己的现状，达到自己的想要的结果。
And this ability to choose meaning, to imagine importance, to invent purpose, is the only force in the known universe that can propagate itself, that can spread its intelligence and generate greater and greater levels of organization throughout the cosmos. Kant believed that without rationality, the universe would be a waste, in vain, and without purpose. Without intelligence, and the freedom to exercise that intelligence, we might as well all be a bunch of rocks. Rocks don’t change. They don’t conceive of values, systems, or organizations. They don’t alter, improve, or create. They’re just there.
只有通过提升自己才能达到提升世界的目的，才能间接改变世界。通过让自己变得更加善良，就能达到让世界变得更加善良的目的。对待自己就像对待一种终极的目的，这样才不会过分关注手段，不过分关注手段就不会产生因为手段的多样化以及其中的利害关系从而犹豫，并作出错误的选择。
Instead, he decided that the only logical way to improve the world is through improving ourselves—by growing up and becoming more virtuous—by making the simple decision, in each moment, to treat ourselves and others as ends, and never merely as means.
