我在扇贝听力里听到这篇文章，一个擅长解决人际冲突的博士给出一个“吵了一架之后老死不相往来但又想破冰”的邮件范例。
我觉得可能是我自己的问题，我可能最近有点过于擅长脑补，以至于看什么都有一点点romantic。实际上这篇东西是关于友谊的，我不应该多想。
但是我确实是这样想的，我看到这篇文章之后心里就跟长毛了似的，完全克制不住地想把这封信发给我的初中同学。
不管青木是不是真的喜欢玉音，对于玉音来说，失去这个朋友都是一件非常痛苦的事。她已经错过了很多个重新与青木联系起来的机会，无数个节日问候被抛到脑后，没有继续联系下去。很想恢复到一张小纸条之前的关系。
我已经认识到，是我在苛求，是我脑补过多导致的，这段友谊的collapse是我想要用我瞎想的关系来替代已有的良好关系。承认自己的错误很困难，但是一旦承认这个错误之后，心里确实是松了一口气。
我知道没有办法假装之前的事情没有发生过，但是能不能弥补？能不能像初中升高中之后那样，若无其事地继续保持联系？毕竟我已经犯过无数次傻，也不差这一次对不对？
Hello, you've been on my mind a lot lately.
I've realized a lot of things as a result of what happened between us.
I thought I'd reach out and share some of those things with you.
I've realized...
That when I'm 100 and looking back on my life,
my friendships and relations will be some of my most treasured memories.
That I probably won't even recall most arguments I've had.
That it's good to spend energy on what really matters.
That I don't want to leave a lot of debris in my wake.
That bad things can't be magically erased,
but I don't have to let them blot out the good.
That there's something to learn from the things that get under my skin.
That when I think only about shat's gone wrong in a relationship,
I'm missing part of the story.
That I want to see whole stories,
not just carefully edited ones.
That apologies-real apologies, not those fake ones-are hard.
That hard journeys are less hard
when I just start putting one foot in front of the other.
That we're all just kind of putting one foot in front of the other.
That long silences suck.
That I let them take on a life of their own and fill in the blanks with stuff I've just made up in my head.
That I crave connection with people who inspire and challenge me.
That I want to be that kind of person for others.
That I want to show my kindness more visible more of the time.
That I don't always need to be right.
That I don't want the silence between us to win.
That I want to be a good friend to you
and have you as my friend again.
That it won't be easy or perfect or comfortable all the time,
but that I want to be in it for the long haul.
Thanks for listening.
I'd like to phone and catch up.
Will you answer my call?
Please say yes.
嗨 我最近经常想起你
我们之间发生的事 让我明白了很多东西
我想和你分享它们
我意识到...
当我在100岁时回顾自己的人生
我的友谊和其他人际关系将成为我最珍贵的回忆
我意识到 大部分的争吵我甚至都不会记得
我意识到 我得把精力花在真正重要的东西上
我意识到 我不希望还没看明白自己的生活 就到了100岁
我意识到 我不想在身后留下一地鸡毛
我意识到 糟糕的事情无法被神奇地抹去
但我不必让它们浸染美好的事物
我意识到 从内心深处可以学到一些东西
我意识到 当我只琢磨着一段感情中出了什么问题
我就已经错过这段故事了
我意识到 我想看到完整的故事
而不仅仅是精心编纂后的故事
我意识到 那种道歉很难 我是说那种真正的道歉不是那些虚假的道歉
我意识到 承认自己对周围发生的事负有责任 其实我也得到了解脱
我意识到 当我开始把一只脚放在另一只脚前面的时候
艰苦的旅程就不会那么艰难
我意识到 我们不过是把一只脚放在另一只脚前面而已
我意识到 长时间的沉默令人难受
我意识到 我让他们过上自己的生活 不过是在用我脑海里的东西填补空白
我意识到 我渴望与激励和挑战我的人建立联系
我意识到 为了别人 我想成为那样的人
我意识到 我希望更多时候更明显地表现出自己的善良
我意识到 我不需要永远正确
我意识到 我不希望我们之间的沉默赢得胜利
我意识到 我想成为你的好朋友
也希望你再次成为我的朋友
我意识到 我们的关系不会永远简单 完美或舒适
但我想一直参与其中
谢谢你听我说这些
我想给你打个电话
你会接我的电话吗?
希望你能说:好
