5. Meet your needs.

People in codependent relationships are great at meeting others’ needs but usually ignore their own, Lancer said. Everyone has a range of needs, such as emotional, social, physical and spiritual needs.

Identify your needs and discover ways to meet them, Lancer said. For instance, if you notice you’re feeling lonely, respond to that need by reaching out and planning dinner with a close friend. “This is becoming self-responsible.”