在我们的生活中，每个人都是独立的个体，所以不管是意见还是看法都会有所分歧，但是你可以讨厌某样东西，你也可以不喜欢某一个人，但是你必须要说服自己允许这些的存在，学会尊重别人就是尊重自己。
In our life, everyone is an independent individual, so there will be differences in opinions and opinions, but you can hate something, you can also dislike someone, but you have to convince yourself to allow the existence of these, learn to respect others is to respect yourself.
不管是在学习生活中还是在工作中，你一定要知道那些夸奖别人的话，你可以随意的说，但是那些在背后诋毁别人的话你一定管好自己的嘴。
No matter in the study life or in the work, you must know that those praise others, you can say, but those behind the back of the slander others you must control their mouth.
其实现在的人对自私这个词的理解，或许有一些偏差，就比如说现在好多大龄未婚的青年总是被别人说结婚不仅仅是你自己一个人的事情，因此有些人甚至背上了自私的罪名。
In fact, nowadays people's understanding of the word "selfish" may have some deviation. For example, many older unmarried young people are always told that getting married is not just a matter for one's own, so some people even bear the charge of selfishness.
但是真的是这个样子吗？我想一个人按照自己喜欢的方式生活那根本就不能叫做自私，而是那些希望你按照他们希望的方式去生活的人才叫自私。
But is this really the case? I think it's not selfish to live your life the way you want it, it's selfish to live your life the way they want you to live it.
年轻人一定要明白，如果你喜欢一个人，那就用心的去喜欢，去表白，但是你一定要知道你向一个人表白是向这个人表明你喜欢她的心意，而并不是向她索取你期望的关系。
Young people must understand that if you like someone, you should love and express your love with your heart, but you must know that when you express your love to a person, you are showing your love to her, not asking for the relationship you expect.
其实现在我们很多人犯的最大的一个错误就是习惯性地以貌取人，可是一个人的长相跟一个人的教养真的不存在任何的关系不是吗？
In fact, one of the biggest mistakes that many of us make now is to judge people by their appearance habitually. However, one's appearance has nothing to do with one's upbringing, does it?
不管遇到什么事情，你的第一反应都应该是想解决办法，而不是一味地去抱怨，其实说白了，抱怨的目的无非就是逃避责任以及懦弱无能的表现，而且抱怨根本就不能解决问题，反而会让我们变得更加的焦虑。
No matter what happens, your first reaction should be to try to find a solution instead of complaining. In fact, to put it bluntly, the purpose of complaining is to evade responsibility and show cowardice. Moreover, complaining can't solve the problem at all, but will make us more anxious.
