罗玉凤:有些从国内来的老人,不值得尊重
凤姐的三观还是正确的,就让这帮坏人去“颠覆美帝”吧,话说美国人自己不清楚这些国人的伎俩,估计不是,其实也是那些机构自身维护和扩张自己的一个手段。
What Rich People Do That Poor People Don’t
思维和行动能力很重要,贫和富就是在于思维和行动力。
building wealth has nothing to do with money, and everything to do with your mindset. what rich people do that poor people don’t — they realize they are rich before they ever make any money at all, then they work every damn day to create a reality that matches the wealth in their mind.
- The Rich are voracious readers.
You become rich by expanding your knowledge base in areas like business, money, salesmanship and marketing — this can only be accomplished through reading.
- The Rich are relentlessly resourceful.
In the words of Theodore Roosevelt, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
If you want to be rich, face every one of life’s challenges with these words in mind.
- The Rich don’t save, they invest.
- The Rich believe in positive energy and people.
- The Rich live with big expectations, setting clear easily-definable goals.
If you want to be rich, set a specific number that you want to hit, and then map out how you are going to get there.
- The Rich learn from other people’s mistakes.
关于育儿,从我自己来说就是从小把孩子作为一个成人看待,凡事都不是以大人的意志出发,培养孩子的自主意思和思维能力。
自我决定论认为,所有的人,包括孩子都有三个基本心理需要:归属感(relatedness)、自主感(autonomy)和胜任感(competence)。如果得到满足,内在动机就提高了。
一、描述性的鼓励比笼统的称赞或奖励提供了更多的成就信息(胜任感)。
二、慎用“如果……那么……”“只有……才……”,如果用也要尽量减少操控的语气。相反,增加孩子的理解、认可和亲子情感联结是有益的。
三、当孩子做到的时候,可以用庆祝的方式给予孩子正面反馈,避免了负面作用。庆祝的好处是意外的惊喜,孩子却不会以为他下次做到了,自然还有奖励(避免了“如果……就……”)
四、孩子如果参与了约定和协商(被尊重,也体会到自主感),也有助于形成内在动机。
五、孩子如果提出自己的建议,用了自己想的方法(自主感),也通过自己的努力做的比原计划更好(胜任感),自然会更有助于形成内在动机。
使用 Java8 Optional 的正确姿势
Optional用的好能让代码变简介,可读性增强。