今日收获:
坦诚的接纳结果,面对困境。从我的角度去感受,再换到反面角度去看。一切的发生都是最好的安排,也许美好的礼物还没又拆开。
从中寻找感恩!
我也坦诚,我被开除过两次,离职证明都写的是主动离职。
一次是公司合并后岗位重叠,并且行业头部已经形成,我也想寻求的新的机会,主动申请离开;
第二次,项目没有按照预期的结果发生,找借口可以说是公司大调整,实际上我也看到自己在其中的力不从心。连续两次生病,肺炎和皮脂腺囊肿开刀,工作上带来了不好的影响,工作上看不到方向,没有很大的信心可以给到用户需要的产品。懈怠了。
被开除内心会过不去,有不足,有努力,上班小半个月就超过了全月的工作时长,休病假期间在家办公。合作部门伙伴蛮认可我的,对我对满意程度不会是倒数排名。即便这样,我依然被开除。会觉得没面子。但是也释然,终于结束了这个不能激发我热情,看不到我发挥价值的工作。
即便从我的面来看,也是有“悲”有喜;公司角度,也要节省成本,项目不满意,要给交代,换血试试看,也能够理解。
现在真的感恩,如果不是这次的开除,我不会有机会进入一个新的行业,不会这么快的更新我的思维。
财富自由,收入的组成,主动收入+被动收入。上班的风险远大于创业。也许我在工作岗位上,不那么容易看见或认同。而现在,更容易接受新鲜事物。没尝试过,怎么知道呢?
感恩我的领导帮我做了这个决定!减少来更多生命的消耗,早点从中释放出来!
创业过程中,面对更真实的自己。会面对之前没有过的挑战,而在困境中,真的更容易看到感恩。
过程中容易看到比较,看到自己的不足,进而产生裹足不前,又触发愧疚等等一系列的恶性循环。不知道你能不能理解感受到。看到的都是负面的。
然而,虹姐在交流中意外的发现来我的状态,平时觉得我是大学毕业,而这个时候忽然觉得我回到了小学。有点不可思议我的情况。我这个时候还真的表现的像个孩子耍赖一样,呈现的比实际的情况还要糟糕。而虹姐用自己的经历,故事跟我细说;一些事情掰开揉碎的跟我讲解。
这个过程中,我不仅看到了对虹姐的感恩,更看到了对父母的感恩,更清晰的看到团队对我的帮助,Tina,鸣赫,少杰,都在各自努力,不给我压力,在支持我,鼓励我,而我也可以为他们做的。在自己建造的困境中,还有比不行动更糟的事情吗?不如走出去,去做就好了,只要行动,只要去爱别人,就有爱有能量激发出来。走出自我困境。没人能束缚我们自己,唯有自己!
感恩身边出现的所有伙伴,团队伙伴,还有我亲爱的朋友们,你们都在让我的身心变得更加健康。
一起传播正能量!一起让世界变得更美好~!
今日关键词
问题反过来看
寻找感恩
心存感激
困境拓展我们感恩的眼界
今日挑战
数算20件感恩的事
海沃塔问题
你是如何处理困境中的反应?
如果把问题倒过来,你看到了什么?
分享在你困境中那三个感恩的事
《被解雇的换位思考》
讲员:Sallie Krawcheck
莎莉·克罗契克
Ellevest CEO&联合创始人
被成为“华尔街女王”
我曾经被解雇,在华尔街日报的头版上,共两次。我相信这是女性的世界纪录。
So I have been fired. On the front page of The Wall Street Journal, twice. I believe it is a world record for any female out there and look.
对此你可以有两种看法,一种是我很羞愧,不去相信这件事情。天呐,老公,今天有人买了华尔街日报吗?我们的朋友会注意吗?
You can have one of two perspectives about at one of which is I'm so embarrassed. I can't believe this happened. Gee, honey, do you think anybody bought The Wall Street Journal today? Do you think our friends will notice?
实际上被公开让我很轻松,因为你不用去费心掩盖这件事。
But there's something remarkably freeing about having it so public because you just sort of lose that we get a very human desire to cover it up.
这是其中一个点。
So that's one thing it's out there.
更宽广的眼界是把问题反过来看。
I think the broader thing is to turn this on its head and to say.
就像我对自己说的,我不敢相信,我有幸在头版上被解雇,我被解雇的理由很充分.在经济低迷时期,我把客户的钱还回去,在次贷危机中还款,而我为此被解雇雇。
As I do, I can't believe I had the privilege of being fired on the front page of The Wall Street Journal. Now I believe I was fired for awfully good reasons. I returned client money during the downturn, the subprime financial crash and I return clients' money and I was fired for that.
这比在工作中因为表现不好被开除更好。
That's a better way to get fired than you're terrible at your job. You are a complete idiot, and now your fire.
当我开始真正地思考这件事,我能接受这件事是因为我做了正确的事 ,这是我应做的而不是假装投资失败。
So I was able to really think through and incorporate that story for myself, to be able to say I'm OK with this, because I felt like I went down doing the right thing, as opposed to. It was felt like a surprising face plant.
重要的是,「眼界」让我感到幸运,能有这些奇妙的经历,我得做什么才能上报纸头版呢!
The bottom line is shift the perspective of how fortunate I am, I got to have these amazing experiences that I got to do anything that anybody cared about.
如果你告诉我,当我还是8、12、14岁的小女孩,学校被欺负被霸凌时,因为被人欺负我可以上报纸的话,我会高兴的后空翻。
That it would actually be in the newspaper if you had told me when I was an eight year old girl, a twelve year old girl of fourteen year old girl when I was getting bullied out of my school, bullied out of my school, bullied out of my school that I would do something that would wind me up in the newspaper I would have done back, flips down the hallway.
保持这种很有用的视角,意识并认可我幸运的经历,因此我很感恩我的工作,感恩被开除了。
And keeping that youthful perspective and recognizing how fortunate I am and recognizing the experience I've had, I say I was grateful for my job.
我很高兴能有这样的经历。我意识到我最糟糕的一天,比很多人最好的一天还精彩。
I was grateful when I got fired. I was grateful. I was so pleased to have had these opportunities, and I fully recognize that my worst day is better than so many people's best days.
拥有这样的「眼界」会让你心存感激,即使是在最困难的时候。
And having that perspective makes you grateful. Even during the most difficult times.